Why is it that in the stories, the hero slays the dragon? Because the collective psyche is that difference should be vanquished for the supposed sake of the majority.
Why do I mention this? Recently I had a dear friend who was in a state of confusion. She wants to be an artist, she’s made a good head start and is very talented. But she’s also an accomplished graduate. Societal expectations are for her to go and get a “proper” job, join a graduate scheme or some such similar thing. She was getting maternal advice from her mother’s friends to get a “cool job in London”. Jobs that seemed attractive, making use of her artistic talent such as PR. The long-lived dream of being the centre city high flyer which is so seductive to many.
Nothing is wrong with that advice, in most ways it is sensible, given out of care and concern for security. That is why we slay the dragon, to eliminate danger and uncertainty.
However, you cannot change your scales and I said as much. People can be majorly persuasive and you want to feel like the choices you make are the “right” ones. Which is usually decided by validation through the opinion of others. But ultimately, you should not go into a job for the long term that isn’t your passion. What happens is you end up working for the sake of working and because you feel purposeless it results in burnout and what you equate with failure.
No one can decide what’s right for you. Not your mother, father, boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend, puppy or magical elf fairy. They could all unintentionally be dragon slayers in disguise. The dragon stands alone when it makes decisions, when it breathes fire.
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